Weeklong Clinic Report by
Tessa Pagones
For anyone who hasn’t been to a weeklong clinic, the format is a lot different
than the 2 or 4-day clinics on the road. At a weeklong, you have at least 5 to 6
hours a day when you can be horseback or otherwise working with your horse, and
everyone is working their horses during those same times, so you don’t spend so
much time watching other riders. So instead of a “here’s who was there with what
kind of horse and this is what they worked on” reporting format, I’m going to
have to go with my own experience, which is probably all I could accurately
report on in any case!
The resources available at the week-longs are amazing. There’s Mark, of course,
and Mark’s assistant Kathleen, who is as terrific as you’d expect. Dave Siemens
(Dr. Dave), who is a horse and human chiropractor is there. He does saddle
fitting as well as chiropractic adjustments for you and/or your horse. In
addition to everyone being really good at what they do, they are all wonderful
people; fascinating to talk to, people with really good hearts who are more than
willing to share their knowledge and experience with anyone who wants to learn.
The other clinic participants are great resources as well. The more I talked to
the other riders about their horses, or their horse or life experiences, the
more I learned.
You truly do get out of one of these clinics what you put into it. And you have
to take complete responsibility for your experience. You can ride as much or as
little as you want. You can watch other riders and learn from what they are
doing. You can ask questions or not. Your level of participation is completely
up to you. If you want someone’s help, you go out and get it. You decide what
kind of help you need and from whom, and then you ask for it - and get it, which
was kind of a revelation for me. Asking for help is one of my least favorite
things to do, but I had to do it (a lot) during that week and I was really glad
I did.
One really important part of the clinics is that every morning you say (to all
the participants) what your goals are for the day, and every evening you say
what you learned that day and what your goals are for the next day. I came to
realize this is a really important part of not only my horsemanship but of my
life in general. Setting goals, being willing to say them out loud, talking
about what you learn, noticing if it’s the same or different from your original
goal, and planning the next set of goals is a really powerful exercise.
I took Tabby to the clinic. She’s a 5-year-old Arab who I just started getting
on this year (I’ve had her since she was 11 months old and she’s been very slow
to mature physically). We arrived with about 6 rides under her belt. On the
first day we worked on leading without me getting run over. By the last day, we
were out pushing cows through an obstacle course, opening and closing gates
while mounted, going over the various obstacles on the horse playground (the
teeter totter bridge was a favorite), standing quietly with Kathleen and
Ashcroft and Mark and Mouse watching other riders, and just generally learning
to be quiet and soft under saddle. As Kathleen said on Tabby’s behalf, “I left
Maryland a filly and I came back a mare.”
I kept a journal while I was there and each day there was something I wrote that
summed up the day for me:
Day 1:
My horse work today was an exercise in learning, patience, humility and open
mindedness, not to mention the importance of asking for (and allowing) help.
Day 2:
I get very frustrated when I don’t understand the rules, which gave me empathy
for the horse.
Goals for tomorrow:
1. Tune out other people and external distractions; focus on my horse
2. Offer myself the same level of patience I’m willing to offer my horse
Day 3:
Mark keeps reiterating with me that if I can just keep adding one more link to
the chain of what my horse knows, she’ll keep having more tools to draw in so
she can begin to settle herself. I need to be soft and consistent and every time
I want to say “No,” I need to give her another option instead. Better to respond
to an idea of hers with, “How about if we do this instead…” rather than with
“Don’t do that!”
Something to work on: I am always aware of everything that might distract my
horse. I think of that as a positive but now I’m not so sure. If I’m focused on
my horse and truly WITH her, I’ll be prepared for anything that might happen
even if I don’t see it coming first and try to anticipate it.
Day 4:
MUCH better about staying focused and not worrying about Tabby’s friend Punkin
when there was something interesting to do and look at. (WHO got better at
this?!)
Day 5:
Wow! Tabby’s grown up before our very eyes. She felt 5 years more mature! I
think pushing the cows without her friend Punkin was a real confidence builder.
We were opening and closing gates, going out to the playground and over the
bridge and the poles, standing for 10 minutes or more with Kathleen and Mark
(and Ashcroft and Mouse) watching other riders. She was really mellow and
steady.
Follow Up & What I Learned
Our homework one night was to think of something we’ve learned this week and how
it applies to something other than horsemanship. Which I thought was funny
because I feel like everything I’m learning applies to everything and not just
horsemanship. Some examples:
1. Hyper vigilance usually causes more problems than it solves
2. If I’m accusing someone else of a particular behavior there’s a good chance
it’s MY behavior, or at least that I started it.
3. It’s very important to have a plan and follow through on it when performing a
task
4. It’s also important to be flexible if your plan includes goals that aren’t
realistic yet
5. It’s okay, even preferable, to move slowly and take tasks in small steps,
making sure each step is fully established/completed before moving on to the
next step
6. Listening and waiting till the other person is finished is very important (in
horsemanship this applies to asking and then waiting for the response; e.g. when
I ask for softness I’ve been way too busy throwing more cues at the horse if I
think the response I get isn’t quick enough)
7. You learn a lot more and get to your goal a lot quicker if you look for and
notice the little things. If you always expect big, you miss a lot.
8. Consistency, consistency, consistency
9. It’s very important to recognize when you need help, to ask for it, and to
allow yourself to receive it
10. You never know if something will work until you try it, and while you’re
trying it, you can’t also debate it, you just have to do it
11. Be clear in your teaching so that at the end of a lesson, the student knows
what it is they’ve been taught
12. When teaching, always give feedback: not enough guidance can lead to the
student (horse) taking matters into their own hands
13. When you have something to work on, it’s really easy to forget the task when
something else comes into play. Keep remembering the point of any exercise you
set for yourself or your horse
14. Feel can get a lot less soft when there’s a specific task to do. Don’t lose
the feel just because you have a new goal
15. LOOK FOR OTHER OPTIONS. This applies to everything. It’s easy to be literal
and not very creative and to get stuck in what you can’t do instead of trying
something else.
16. You can’t do one thing in most areas of your life and expect to be able to
do it differently in one area of your life. Three days in the truck on the way
home was a long time to think and practice some things. I fidget A LOT, and I
constantly fidget myself into unbalanced or tense positions. I let my mind
wander, and when it does, my body starts wandering too (from simply tensing
muscles to crossing my legs, or propping my elbows up on something, etc), and
I’m not even aware of it. How can I possibly be balanced and soft and quiet and
focused with my horses if I’m so unbalanced and fidgety and tense and distracted
the rest of the time? Keeping an awareness of where my center is and where my
balance is drives out a lot of the extraneous noise in my head. I just can’t
think about that many things at once. I think (I hope) that paying attention to
this may be habit forming.
17. I can decide on a new rule (behavior) at any time as long as I’m clear and
consistent about it. I don’t need to get stuck in what I’ve always done or how
I’ve always been and feel obligated to stay that way because someone else
expects it